Laughter is the closest distance between two people.Victor Borge
Just as with our intentions and actions, the intention is the beginning. The action is our attempt to express our intention. Then our partner’s reception and interpretation of our action is the result. Hence, what we create between us is key to the positive expression, reception and interpretation of both actions and intention.
In other words, the world we exist in is subjective and our perspective and interpretation of the world is based on our experiences. This is also true for your romantic interest(s), your girl-/boy-friend, your partner(s) and spouse.
The more positive input we have and try to put into the world around us results in a safer and more trusting environment. This environment is the space between ourselves and others.
In other words, maintaining our affirmative ambiance/atmosphere can be supported by the following:
- Being nice to ourselves
- Forgiving ourselves and others
- Considering that most people are doing the best they can, in the moment, including ourselves
On the one hand the more positive we make our environment, the more attractive our environment becomes, on the other hand the more attractive our environment is the more we experience positivity.
Some ways of insinuating positivity in to your environment include:
- Eye contact
- Active listening
Ultimately encouraging more communication between ourselves and others.
Naturally, we find it easier to talk with people who exist in and are creating a similar atmosphere.
Communication and understanding can become a little bit more challenging or strained when we have different backgrounds, upbringings, and perception of the world around us.
Hence, to improve are chances of both understanding being understood we can use active listening and positive expression to encourage a “trusting and save” “in between” each other as we communicate.
Attraction may be a completely different experience. When we are attracted to someone who is creating a different vibe than we are used to, it can be intimidating or interesting. Both can initiate excitement.
At the same time, when we meet someone who wants to share our space or even participate in creating it. Feeling the same and/or responding in kind can be a first step. And then, we are on our way to creating a relationship space.
It can be helpful to remember that our relationships exist both within our hearts and heads, as well as, outside ourselves in a realm of their own; in the in between.
This is Sean. Try being nice to yourself for a week, a day, an hour, a moment, and see what happens.
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