In Between: Meeting in the Middle
Being Together (1)
Where, When, How…
Here we are again. Exactly where we want to be. Or at least where we choose to be. Those of us lucky enough to be able to choose….
But, I am getting off track.
This is Sean and I am here because I want to be.
We are here in the moment creating, maintaining, supporting and improving our HHIA relationships. Our relationship statuses can affect where and how we choose to meet our others. After exploring how we make time, we are looking at a few potential places to meet and enjoy the company of others in this Blog-Lesson.
On the one hand, where we are in our relationships can affect where we choose to meet our partners. On the other hand we can always restart, reboot and reframe how and where we choose to meet each other.
With this in mind, we are going to start at the beginning:
Today’s initial meeting spaces include a variety of digital formats from Facebook to Grinder/Tinder and every portal in between. These spaces a have positive aspects, as well as, challenging aspect to them. They allow us to explore, examine and express at the click of a button. Simultaneously a separation between our inner-self; internal spirit and our outer-self: outgoing personality can develop and act as a hurdle for real connections; intimately or physically – in person.
Digital Management can include both time and space boundaries for ourselves and the people we meet/interact with in these spaces. Choosing when and how long we choose to be on/in a platform can help us to acknowledge and be present in both the digital format and our physical reality. Keeping them in balance. Choosing to be our most polite and considerate selves is another way to help increase and enhance our experiences in such spaces.
(Contact me for more specific suggestions which can be discussed in more detail: Changing Formats, Texting, Pictures, Chat, Voicemail, among other options.)
They say any landing you can walk away from is a good one.Alan Shepard
Where do we meet each other. We physically meet in a place, a space, somewhere. After our initial interaction with someone, we can choose to get to know them better. We can:
- Organize coffee,
- make a date,
- plan to get together,
- schedule something,
- see each other,
- arrange a call,
- work out a get together,
Let’s start with coffee. Meeting for coffee or tea in a café/coffee shop has a lot of advantages: It is
- daytime: morning or afternoon,
- time limited in nature,
- they are everywhere,
- a great variety
There is the possibility of something sweet without the expectation of more than it is. Coffee is a great way to meet and share a moment with someone. A quick espresso to go can easily evolve into a sit-down Frappuccino with a croissant and/or biscuit with a smile and conversation. It’s all up to you both.
Clark GableI never laugh until I’ve had my coffee
(This is of course when we can sit-down in a coffee shop again. In the meantime, coffee to go can turn into a picnic/coffee and conversation on the move. Flexibility in the pandemic is a big part of our choices at the moment – FEB/2021)
That’s all for now. We will be back with a look at First & Second Dates, and living together.
This is Sean. Try just being with yourself (and with those around you) for a minute, an hour, a day, a week, and see what happens.
(You can always contact me for more concrete suggestions.)
Love to hear your thoughts. Till next time!
Our earlier Blog-Lessons: