In the Zone (The Nose Knows)
And we are back! Sean here! And, we are expanding our understanding of our senses in our HHIA relationships. Our senses include touch, sight, sound, taste and smell! We have looked at touch, sight and sound, including several exercises we can experience with our partners and ourselves. These exercises encourage and support our intimacy and pleasure.
All exercises can be experienced with a partner and/or solo.
And now, we are ready to consider how smell comes into play in our attractions and HHIA Relationships. This time we are going to talk a sense that is often overlooked or goes unspoken with regard to our attractions, romance and intimate exploration.
In other words, we are going to open up about smells. Odors and scents tend to be private, quiet and often shameful in our society and various cultures. We spend thousands of euros a year to cover, modify and/or disguise our natural scents and smells.
Nose & Mouth
Actually, our senses of smell and taste are very closely related. Breathing is essential for life and relatively constant. When we breathe through our noses we experience the scents and smells around us. These can range from seductive to repulsive, from pleasant to unpleasant, and from encouraging to discouraging. Interestingly, most of us are quite shy about communicating our less than positive odiferous experiences.
You have to see and smell and feel the circumstances of people to really understand them.Kamala Harris
A couple of less flattering social commentaries about our potential aromas include:
- Children sing about the connection between nutrition and “natural gas” –
- Beans Beans the Magical Fruit! The more you eat, the more you toot!
- And recognize the importance of keeping our smells to ourselves:
- The one who smelt it dealt it!
- And for the adults among us:
- Garlic is for the weekend!
- Always share the Garlic with those you plan to kiss later.
Thus, it is no surprise that we often experience a bit of uncertainty and/or insecurity about how we smell. This is both personal and cultural.
Pleasant, seductive, positive scents are all the rage! Our society and life in clise quarters in the city has encouraged us to mask and modify our natural scent with deodorant, toilet water, aftershave, scented lotions and perfumes. We really do enjoy those scents we enjoy! Just consider all the perfume, cologne and scented oils we test, buy, wear and share. There is something about the way we smell. On the one hand, we are conditioned not to talk about unpleasant smells. On the other hand we are constantly being encouraged to destry, cover and mask any and all natural human scents.
Our personal scent and pheromones are signals to our community; partners and potential partners. These pheromones signal our arousal, encourage sympathy and ovulation. Direct evidence of human pheromones is still being searched for in the scientific community. At the same time there is plenty of evidence that our scents is a significant factor in attraction and stimulation.
Personal hygiene and good scents are intricately related. Washing and Rinsing our bodies after working out, working hard, stressful situations, gardening and other strenuous activities. However, in our modern office and urban lives the need for constant soap and scrubbing to keep clean is for many of us no longer a necessity.
Scent Free / Sensuality
Take a day where you do not have to be anywhere. Try this experiment:
- Go scent commando for a day.
- Get up in the morning and take a shower: just using hot, warm or cold water. The choice is yours.
- Get out of the shower
- Dry yourself off
- Skip the deodorant
- No Perfume
- No Scented oils, lotions or gels
- Let yourself be aromatically unique and you
- At the end of the day:
- Take a moment or two and experience your own aroma.
- Do you like your scent?
- Is it comforting?
- Is it something you would like to share?
- If so then you can share this exercise with your partner and smell how it goes. 😊
A very sensitive and personal smell is our breath: the good, the bad and the… Since ancient times we have been chewing mint, herbs, candies, mints with ingredients including cardamom, ambergris, musk, essence of violet, essence of rose, licorice or oil of cinnamon; mouthwash made of alcohol, thymol, eucalyptol and menthol, and brushing our teeth with everything from natron to cardamom to encourage fresher breath. Today we are encouraged to brush our teeth at least twice a day and more. Personal Oral Hygiene is an essential part of our human attraction. Be sure to care for your teeth, tongue, lips and gums. It will go a long way to keep your breath fresher and attractive.
Contemplation & Comfort
We can also experience scents, aromas, fragrances and bouquets together or solo: We can share: soaps, lotions, incense, candles, wine, perfumes, scents, oils , flowers and any other scented or natural smells in our world. We can make a game of it with blindfolds or intimate spaces allowing us to be engulfed by the experience. Our choices range from choosing our favorites to share or exploring new scents together. All of these can be both enriching and enlightening as we learn more and more about each other, ourselves and our preferences and passions.
Smell the roses. Smell the coffee. Whatever it is that makes you happy.Rita Moreno
One the one hand we want to share ourselves and our experiences. On the other hand, we want to experience our partner, their preferences and pleasures. Discovering fragrances and scents together can be a wonderfully intimate and playful experience. Sharing and discussing our preferences, pleasures and memories is always a positive experience for an HHIA relationship. This is true whether our preferences, passions and pleasures are shared in the moment or not. Ultimately, the creation of a communicative and safe mutual environment for ourselves and our partners is priceless and generates new shared memories.
This is Sean. Try sharing some time and something special with yourself (and those who are important to you) this week and see what happens.
(You can always contact me for more concrete suggestions.)
Our earlier Blog-Lessons: