Healthy Happy Intimate Adult Relationship

Healthy Happy Intimate HHIA Relationships 55

Time Tells the Tale

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Tell me

Every story I create, creates me. I write to create myself.

Octavia E. Butler

This is Sean! We are back and exploring how we express ourselves in pursuit of attention, affection, intimacy and HHIA relationships. 

In other words, we are looking at who we are and what we share others. Once we have given our name(s) away, we begin to fill in information about us, around us, from within and from history with stories.       

Once upon a time…

Our stories come from somewhere. We all have stories that we share and stories that we keep close to our hearts. Most of the stories we tell help to inform the people we meet and the people we pursue as well as our partners, friends and family. What these stories tell other about ourselves is varied and dependent on the interest and understanding of those listening to our stories.

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Do Tell

We tell/talk about:

All these stories expounding our thoughts and experiences in the world, in our families, at work and in life in general, help us to connect with others. As a result, we are able to share both our experiences and our inner thoughts about the things we see, hear, touch feel and taste.

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On the one hand being human beings puts us on equal footing with everyone around us, if we wish to be. And, on the other hand, sharing our unique perspectives and interpretations of our everyday experiences, we find both connection and intimacy with each other.

Mirror Mirror

Ultimately, telling our stories to each other and to ourselves helps us to see our reflection in the world and those around us. In other words, we are reflected by those around us who hear our stories. And simultaneously, we mirror our story teller’s thoughts and feelings as we listen to them.  

It is through our stories that we establish who we are and our place in our world and the lives of those around us. Our stories connect us to one another on a primal level while allowing us to express our uniqueness and affection for one another.

Intimately, the stories we share can give each other greater insight & understanding, as well as, tenderness & affection when we –

  • Speak in low voices
  • Dim the lights or light candles
  • Look into each other’s eyes
  • Use hushed tones
  • Express ourselves over time
  • Sit or lay close together
  • Touch or hold hands
  • Nod our heads
  • Emote
  • Authentically Share & Genuinely Listen
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The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.

Neil Gaiman

That’s all for now!

This is Sean. Tell one of your favourite stories and/or listen to the stories of those who are important to you this week and see what happens.

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