Healthy Happy Intimate HHIA Relationships 57

Making Memories

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Take care of all your memories. For you cannot relive them.

Bob Dylan

This is Sean! We are here pondering how we communicate while pursuing  friendship, devotion, love, and HHIA relationships.    

In other words, we are concentrating on who we are and what we share with each other. We have been looking at names (54), stories (55) and the value of recognizing, expressing and living our truth (56) and honoring the truths of others.

Our memory is a more perfect world than the universe: it gives back life to those who no longer exist.

Guy de Maupassant
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And now, we are ready to explore expanding our experiences and sharing our time and thoughts with others. Ultimately, in this process we begin to make memories. Memories are a mix of history, experiences, feelings and perspective.

Memories are simultaneously unique & individual and shared & communal.

On the one hand memories are, like beauty, in the eye of the beholder. On the other hand, memories can be a communal intimate shared experience.  

I feel you!

How exactly do we create memories?  We create memories through and with emotions.  An Emotional Atlas offers a list of 5 emotions:

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In other words, positive memories are connected to positive emotions which in a new study include:  

  • Admiration
  • Adoration
  • Aesthetic
  • Appreciation
  • Amusement
  • Awe
  • Calmness
  • Entrancement
  • Excitement
  • Interest
  • Joy
  • Nostalgia
  • Romance
  • Satisfaction
  • Sexual Desire
  • Sympathy
  • Triumph
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Mindful Creation

We make memories with intent and mindfulness. Alternatively, we can create shared memories by doing just that, sharing our intention and appreciation. Some instances include:

  • Holding Hands
  • A Kiss
  • Watching the Sunset/Sunrise
  • Being Thoughtful
  • A Quick Smile
  • Telling a Joke
  • Laughing with Each Other
  • Gazing into Each Other’s Eyes
  • Coffee in Bed
  • Eating/Cooking Together
  • Going for a Walk  

Everything done with intent and mindfulness can create a memory and be shared with someone. While we are on the subject, making and sharing positive memories helps to build relationships, intimacy and trust.

What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined – to strengthen each other – to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.

George Eliot
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That’s all for now!

This is Sean. Make memory for yourself (and pay attention to those who are important to you) this week and see what happens.

(Contact me at kontakt@praxis-wiebersch.de for more concrete suggestions.)

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