Setting the Tone
Truth or Dare
As we tell our stories and give names to things it is important to consider the truth of the moment and the intention of our expression. Is our intention to entertain, explain or instruct? What is the background and context of our communication and conversations?
The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.James A. Garfield
One truth is that we often exaggerate, forget, and/or leave out some details some times. A few questions to help to recognize our own level of trust & truth in our lives are as follows:
- How often do I recognize and/or convey that I may exaggerate, forget, and/or leave out some details?
- Are we able to accept the truth for ourselves and each other?
- How honest are we with ourselves and our circle of colleagues, family, friends and intimate partners?
- Do I feel safe to share my truth with my surroundings?
- Can I hear and accept the truth of those around me?
Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin‘ away.Elvis Presley
On the one hand we need to feel safe to express our truth. On the other hand, we need to experience the truth to feel safe with ourselves and others. Unfortunately, we are taught, learn and experience lots of ways to avoid truths we find uncomfortable, unpleasant, vulnerable or exposed.
A variety of methods that we have learned and feel justified to use in our society “to protect ourselves and others from the TRUTH” include:
None of these offer authenticity or encourage trust.
Ultimately, both trust and authenticity are important in creating intimacy and a sense of safety in relationships. These go hand in hand with the truth and being as honest as we can with ourselves and each other.
By being as honest and truthful with each other as we can, we can begin to create truly intimate and enriching experiences together.
That’s all for now!
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