Setting the Tone
Truth or Dare
Sean here again! Here we are considering how we express ourselves when seeking our attention, affection, intimacy and HHIA relationships.
In other words, we are focusing on who we are and what we share with each other. We have gone through names and naming things, as well as, the types of stories we tell ourselves and others.
As we tell our stories and give names to things it is important to consider the truth of the moment and the intention of our expression. Is our intention to entertain, explain or instruct? What is the background and context of our communication and conversations?
The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.
James A. Garfield
Your Truth/My Truth
Objectively, there is no such thing as The Truth. At the same time, there is our knowledge, experience, understanding, and perspective. These help to create our “Truth”
One truth is that we often exaggerate, forget, and/or leave out some details some times. A few questions to help to recognize our own level of trust & truth in our lives are as follows:
- How often do I recognize and/or convey that I may exaggerate, forget, and/or leave out some details?
- Are we able to accept the truth for ourselves and each other?
- How honest are we with ourselves and our circle of colleagues, family, friends and intimate partners?
- Do I feel safe to share my truth with my surroundings?
- Can I hear and accept the truth of those around me?
Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin‘ away.
Elvis Presley
Our Truth
On the one hand we need to feel safe to express our truth. On the other hand, we need to experience the truth to feel safe with ourselves and others. Unfortunately, we are taught, learn and experience lots of ways to avoid truths we find uncomfortable, unpleasant, vulnerable or exposed.
A variety of methods that we have learned and feel justified to use in our society “to protect ourselves and others from the TRUTH” include:
- Politeness
- White Lies
- Tall Tales
- Exaggeration
- Minimization
- Assumption
- Excuses
- Distraction
- Silence
None of these offer authenticity or encourage trust.
Ultimately, both trust and authenticity are important in creating intimacy and a sense of safety in relationships. These go hand in hand with the truth and being as honest as we can with ourselves and each other.
By being as honest and truthful with each other as we can, we can begin to create truly intimate and enriching experiences together.
That’s all for now!
This is Sean. Tell your truth to yourself and listen to your truth and the truths of those who are important to you this week and see what happens.
(Contact me at kontakt@praxis-wiebersch.de for more concrete suggestions.)
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