Maintaining the Vibe
Life’s like a movie, write your own ending. Keep believing, keep pretending.Jim Henson
Sean here. We are continuing our study of communication and the quest for companionship, love, and affection in HHIA relationships.
In other words, we are considering who we are and who we want to be with each other in our pursuit of passion and approval from one another.
Simultaneously, creating and developing our relationships includes a bit of maintenance, care and prudence in our actions and expressions towards our significant others.
Relationships go through a lot of steps and stages, milestones and special moments from…
- … glances
- … smiles
- … words
- … coffees
- … dates
- … dinners
- … touches
- … kisses
- … caresses
Our firsts are all very exciting and often quite intimate with just the two/three of us exploring and experiencing each other in a private and protected environment. In other words, we have the opportunity to give and receive attention and affection often with focus and intention and without distractions or other opinions.
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.Ralph Waldo Emerson
Often after a relatively brief “honeymoon” phase, we expand our focus. Our expanded focus tends to include:
On the one hand we get to learn more about both ourselves and our partners through this expanded focus and input. On the other hand, we can be overwhelmed and underwhelmed by the influence and weight of both our own expanded input and that of our paramours.
All of these influences can begin to color our experiences with one another and distract us from our purpose and aspiration to create a HHIA relationship which supports and enriches our lives both individually and together.
Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.Walt Whitman
Keeping, preserving and sustaining our relationships, feelings and affections are as simple and complicated as we experience them. One of the best ways to do this is to start at the beginning and remember to be:
- and so on…
Most importantly, we can support and encourage our relationship growth and stability through expressing and believing in our beauty and our bond. Simply put, “We are on the same team and always want the best for each other and ourselves.” With this in mind, we can persist and persevere in healthy happy intimate adult relationships with one another.
That’s all for now!
This is Sean. Remember to be kind to yourself (and with those who are important to you) this week and see what happens.
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