Healthy Happy Intimate Adult Relationship

Healthy Happy Intimate HHIA Relationships 62

Maintaining the Vibe


To Court: to seek, to gain or achieve; act so as to invite or provoke seek the affections; to win a pledge of marriage; perform actions in order to attract; to seek an alliance.

Paraphased form Merriam Webster
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This is Sean , back again! We are furthering our exploration of our interactions and search for rapport, love, and romance in HHIA relationships.   

In other words, we are pondering who we are and who we want to be with each other in our hunt for passion and appreciation from one another.

Courting is much more than just working for an engagement. One the one hand we are seeking attention and approval. On the other hand we are acting on the behalf of the object of our affection, hoping to prove to them that we are the best peron for them to spend their time, affection and emotions on/with. Our goal is to create an environment where our dates, partners, lovers, and/or in spouses choose us to occupy a special place in their hearts and lives.

Princes, Princesses & In Between

Wine, like food, is so emotional. If you think about it, so much of the courting ritual is surrounded by wine and food. There’s a built-in romance to wine.

Padma Lakshmi

Ultimately, our search for that special someone turns into a dance to attract and amuse them. This is true whether we dance alone or in concert. In the best of circumstances, this dance becomes a lifelong event which we choose to participate in with our significant others. Throughout this process we are encouraged to remember this and keep “dancing” for and with those who are most important to us.  

Luckily, we have more than one tool or technique in our arsenal to attract and keep the attention of our loved ones. We have and develop:

  • Performance
  • Romance
  • Talent
  • Affection
  • Conversation
  • Skills
  • Appearance
  • Interest
  • Humor
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  • Support
  • Style
  • Loyalty
  • Individuality
  • Presentation
  • Trust
  • Intimacy
  • … Among others   

Kings, Queens & In Betweens

In other words, our courtship rites and rituals develop in to the scenery and context of our lives together. Put plainly, this is what we call a relationship. Our relationships continue to grow and mature just as we do over moments, minutes, days, weeks, months, and years.  

Historically, courting and courtship would come to an end as soon as the ink was dry on the contract. Marriages were ironclad and unbreakable treaties spiritually, culturally and legally for a better part of our history. However, today the rules have changed and we are free to pursue our happiness as individuals, couples, throuples or moresomes ?. This is a great thing for you, me, us and our relationships.

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Fools for Love

Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do.

David Wilkerson

Simultaneously, this new truth and freedom comes with the challenge to keep our relationships fresh, funny and fulfilling. Maintaining a happy, healthy and intimately enriching and supportive relationship is both a goal and an accomplishment each day.

That’s all for now!

This is Sean. Try a bit of courting for yourself (and for those who are important to you) this week and see what happens.

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